It’s normal to experience sadness and to grieve after loss. But that doesn’t make it easy. Some people say grief is the most powerful thing that can be experienced in everyday life. It’s what happens after the loss of someone or something really important to you. Everyone experiences grief differently – so try not to compare yourself to anyone else or get too worried if some of this stuff is or isn’t affecting you.
Grief and Loss
What's going on?
How long will this go on for?
What else should I look out for?
- Using alcohol or other drugs can sometimes make difficult feelings more painful.
- You might be more likely to say or do things you regret.
- It might make things easier to deal with at the time, but can make everything much harder afterwards.
What can I do to deal with my grief?
Getting help and support
You can think about grief as the unpredictable surge of the ocean. If it feels like the waves are constantly crashing down on you, like you’re having trouble coming up for air, or you’re so exhausted you want to give up – it’s time to act. Find a trusted friend, teacher, family member or Elder and let them in on what’s happening for you. If you need more support, there are a number of options that can suit your needs.
- See the additional resources listed below.
- Find an online or phone-based service you can access anonymously and free of charge (such as eheadspace , Kids Helpline or Lifeline).
- Check in with your local general practitioner (GP).
- Find your nearest headspace centre.
Other useful websites
- ReachOut – Grief and Loss
- Youth Beyond Blue – Grief and Loss
- What’s Your Grief?
- Sane Australia – Busting the Myths about Grief
Things to remember:
- Grief is normal. It’s what happens after the loss of someone or something important to you.
- It hurts. A lot.
- It’s different for everyone, and it’s unpredictable.
- It can make you feel out of control but there are things you can do to help manage it.
- It’s a good idea to share your thoughts and feelings with people that are important to you.
- If it feels too overwhelming, there is support available. Get in touch with us.
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Last reviewed 18 October 2017